Social Picture : Hypocrisy Unlimited 😏

Listed below some hot topics of a BIPOLAR Society and viewpoints from a Human perspective...

1. In the current scenario amidst COVID 19 crisis happening in India.. death rates are mounting to an extent that children are losing both their parents.. Social outfits of Child rights agencies have become active to ensure legal adoption takes place in order to avoid child trafficking of any sort.

2. The Epic Divorce of the new millennium, Bill Gates and Melinda, this is probably the biggest legal separation after Millenials ago Ram Sita parted in the Epic when the legal system did not have the term "divorce"... quite hilarious.

3. The other dark rather stark reality of social fabric are the orphanages where apart from genuine orphans there are children born out of wedlock, those who are disregarded by society, the same children after adoption are given due name and respect..

Where is the question of Being Human and human Capital?

Divorce in India is still a big social stigma!! However when you step in into a Family court.. there are uncountable cases waiting to be heard in the Legal outfit...(another pitfall running with many loopholes where the two partners play games of inhumane allegations and notice notice, charting their own karmic records all done to be right in eyes of legal bodies who define the social fabric)

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Amidst the Right and wrong, fault finding games in others... do we have the time to Ponder into our own selves? 

Yesterday I came across a very interesting post by Jaseena Backer, a Writer & Psychologist,  a person who might be dealing with various such issues in National Capital Delhi..NCR where literacy rates are quite high and people are considered to be open minded.

Her thoughts below:

"This morning I was counselling a client who has decided to proceed with divorce. She is moving out and has signed a rental contract , she spoke to her parents on her decision and was in conversation with me for her mental make up. I told her to get in touch with a lawyer to know her custody rights 

She is sorted in life yet she is not ready for  the mudslingers of the society. It was easy for me to tell her to ignore naysayers and move on, but as her help I should support her to handle that fear as well. 

Mudslingers contribute nothing to her life other than take away her peace of mind. I used Chirstopher Walken’s words to her “ if you knew how quickly people forget the dead, you would stop living to impress people.”

Further I told her to look at what people have been talking about the divorce of Melinda and Bill. The couple have sorted their marriage in their way and even gave a public statement about the divorce, the most intelligent way of talking about divorce. Yet the curious society is doing a biopsy of their divorce. Everybody has two cents to contribute. 

Are they related to the couple? Are their real estates at stake ? Are their wills being challenged? Nothing to lose, so loose talk.

For most of the Indian women, things would be different from Melinda. 

Melinda wouldn’t go back to her parents who would alienate her and blackmail her to think of her unmarried younger sister and continue in the dysfunctional marriages 

Melinda wouldn’t be looked down upon as a DIVORCEE and commented on her colourful clothes and red lipstick. 

Melinda wouldn’t be unfriended by her female friends and ostracized for being a future potential home breaker.

Melinda won’t be the center of gossip for been seen at a party or festival. 

Melinda won’t be denied rental homes or jobs because of her marital status.

Melinda won’t be criticised for being happy after a divorce. 

Yet our women take that bold step to shun a dysfunctional marriage and move on. Let us all support them as a society by not minding their business. The rest they will do for themselves.

Hope one day our women would be able to make such a public statement on divorce like Melinda and live respectable life after divorce. If we can announce a wedding then we should be able to announce a divorce too. 

Disclaimer: This is the female narrative."

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The above questions portray the Mental health of our Sick qualified society who cannot respect a woman alone as an entity.. that's really SAD. All still driven by "masculinity", which's a preferred term than Patriarchy.

Why is Divorce a big question and a single woman is regarded as an open-ended game whereas in the same society marriages are now not at all a priority or a criterion..

Today, Men and women both much before marriage are into multiple relationships as a new norm, Marriage which used to be considered as a pious tie in Hindu religion to fulfill desires of progeny and procreation.. to take social outfits forward through a legacy and not something which you take last resort to when your sexual desires and appetite is fulfilled or you are mature enough to commit yourself.

One breakup after another is a new fad... but breaking a marriage is a BIG question.. why? Cause its a pious relationship in Hindu marriage (chukle )

Till two decades back.. just before stepping into the new millennium, the modern definition of relationships was rare! 

Again in many philosophical contexts we speak about " Lena dena"  or karmic accounts.. cannot Divorce be taken into the same context? so that we move ahead with clean chit and not create social or legal clutter. 

We must applaud the couple who have been courageous enough to clear the territory for each other... cause today more than "Divorce" tags there are both men and women living separately but having multiple partners again.. just to fit into the fake social outfit without the tag brand Divorcee..

Loyalty and commitment are laughed upon at...........

cause in this Fake world, you are "expected" to stay in the marriage but infidelity or swapping is "accepted". 

Look back into our own historical blueprints..read the story of Kolhapur Mahalaxmi.. where separated women were also given their due place and respect.

Into these challenging subsets of our social matrix comprising of Old age homes, LGBT rights, Single women, Orphanages, red light areas, Hindu Marriage laws, Muslim Marriages, and their life span?

To top it up... those who chitter-chatter aren't aware of what future will bring them onto them or the relationship statuses of their own spouses or children .

Marriage in today's era of skewed-up relationships seems to be a placard you are carrying to fit into the tattered social fabric.

Whereas..

Leaving aside the above chaos; there lies another format of Matrilineal societies, considered as best, regarded as Societies of Peace in United Nations.  This was practiced by our ancestors also.. that's why we still worship our family deity or Kul DEVI.. technically known as Phratry, proving of matrilineal descent.

In this format, highly recommended by United Nations also.. all the above social problems or duality we are facing today in terms of demarcation; will cease to exist. The societies of peace are driven by feminine energy filled with love and empathy and not chauvinism. 

The biggest advantage? You will save all your resources invested in Women empowerment drama ( and then we needn't pen down her sad story of being victimized gaining sympathy votes).

End of the day, pls note...you don't have to face anyone but your own self your own soul!! So turn on your GPS and chart your way well, seek and use freewill!!