What is your Outfit? Are you the Boss? Lady..

International Men’s day just passed by, and not much pomp and show could be seen compared to the “weaker sex” as we state so!! Women’s day where every nook and corner of our country is full of offers, celebrations, discounts in stores to lure the lady, empowering talks for the Empress so to say!! (chuckle)

Probably Men don’t require much of loud publicity cause somewhere on reality grounds he knows that he holds the control compared to the weaker sex.. and the empowering talks are nothing but a “publicity gimmick” for him ( to sit back in silence and create more jokes on women)

So, just two days before this Men’s day event, I got to meet Apurva Purohit, President, Jagran Group, she has authored another book with a title LADY, YOU’RE the BOSS! The book comes out after a series of research and reflects some alarming facts and figures which do not match with the perfectly painted and layered pictures shown on the silver screen.

While the malls and stores run majorly on women’s apparel and cosmetics and if we talk about the latter; the cosmetics market in India in 2018 – 2019 is valued at about USD 6.5 billion and these occupy huge spaces.... now, let’s take a sneak peek into the book so I extract some lines and precisely, in correlation, raise some points!!

“There is a ceiling beyond which you cannot grow, as only 17% of start-ups have a woman partner, just 5% of senior management roles in organisations are filled by women and only 3% of VC funding goes to women entrepreneurs. There are hardly any women in policy making or as IIM directors”.

‘If we look into the bedrooms and boardrooms, we can easily spot lazy husbands and difficult bosses capturing the entire space!’...... and Lady, you look great in that lipstick and the expensive outfit as another glam property to add value to the ownership.

While the cosmetics occupy most expensive spaces, the women are taught from childhood to restrict themselves.” (paradox) “don’t talk too much, don’t laugh out loud, and many such don’ts” hence we are conditioned to lead a silent dumb feeble life (with that perfect shade on... showpiece to BE..?) while there is an entire Universe residing in us.”

Anurag has penned down various anecdotes telling about women who don’t accept promotions, give up her rightful raise in order to protect the rightful male ego. The existence of single women is still a BIG question, and will you work after marriage even a bigger question which is raised to a 35-year-old lady, COO of a company!! (And we talk about empowerment on a daily basis, ofcourse to celebrate women's  day for the event management companies..lol), ending up in a tribe scared of marriages or committed relationships.

While we talk about being open and aware of ourselves, our roles and responsibilities as a woman; in another interesting chapter Apurva throws light on Consistence along with commitment is equally important, termed as KKN rule: Kehna, Karna ur Nibhana. This rule applies to both home and workplace.. how trivial the commitment is we must honour that!

So probably after Self awakening, self-realisation, and knowing self-worth, seeping in are evolutionary changes that come with a breed of first-generation working women. Women who have started analysing the strategically positioned emotional games wherein she gives up her entire self, in the name of being a wife or a mother as the nurturer of the same male breed who will take over us again.

So beyond the regular discussions, meets and insights we gather about ourselves, the women, which are intended to refuel our strength and beliefs of our own tribe which are beyond the “Culture Vulture” and Sacrosanct beliefs we are carrying in our DNA imprint.  Beyond the books and the laws which are redefined daily after a series of amendments, my question yet is about the entire ecosystem of the dual upbringing of the whole female tribe which leaves us confused in the new age of enlightenment and education, that of self-realisation (this is also what our religious texts also teach, especially Gita).

Do we still welcome a girl child in this world?

The upbringing which her parents do for 20 to 30 years span of her early age has to be washed away, be it her attire or anything.. are her parents wrong?

The surname she has to shed off, sacrosanct?

We have many divorce cases nowadays and that of multiple marriages, what therefore is in a name? The name outfit again you wear to display your identity (to whom?), which even we the women tribe don’t have clarity upon!!

Where do our property rights lie when there are cases of desertion, triple talaq and the most wanted sons throwing you out in old age homes?

Are we the women tribe teaching our Men the right lessons?  to maintain the equilibrium) and to respect the opposite gender... rather teaching Humanity over gender biases!!

Let’s pull our socks and get back to ground zero, the reality!! How many are actually ready to throw off the baggage of social shields (which is not the true image).

Is the current women tribe teaching our sons, the coming generation who will be working with “empowered women” to treat them right and equal, if it’s about gender parity.  So let us change the forums from women empowerment discussions to teaching men the respect they must give women.

Can we bring back the societies of peace which has been written in my earlier blog also, let the daughter remain in the same ecosystem where she has been brought up without changing her outfit – that of name, home and attire. Both the man and woman meet for progeny and procreation...  

Anyways if the current working tribe is mostly traveling so how does the address matter?

What is the ultimate objective of the currently depressed and confused human race? Peace and increasing happiness quotient. Let's learn from the North East regions of India Mosuo’s of China which have been termed as ‘Societies of Peace’ even in the World Congress.

So the master or The captain is you Lady Boss!! Be your own Boss with a Blueprint of your life.. chart your path!! That’s the real Glorious you!!

Lady, YOU'RE THE BOSS by Apurva Purohit - Book reading session was held on 18th November 2019 at Cowrks Gurgaon. The event was organised by Gurgaon Moms.